By AUTUMN GRAY
The Santa Fe New Mexican
When Mindy Miller-Willis learned she had two malignant tumors in her
right breast and needed immediate surgery, her solace came from about 70
people she'd never seen - people she considers family. The faceless friends
sent flowers, words and prayers in the two weeks between the news and the
time of the operation. But when the day of reckoning arrived, the tumors
had shrunk to such a size that removal was unnecessary. The danger had subsided.
For Miller-Willis, the strangers worked a miracle.
In reality, they work beads. They are self-made artisans, bonded by a
common interest and united over thousands of miles through a computerized
crafts "bulletin board" on the Prodigy information service. About
30 members of the board's beadwork section, known as a "chat room"
in computer lingo, came face-to-face in Santa Fe this weekend. They call
it the second Prodigy Bead Chile Fiesta. Some of them had met for the first
time at a similar gathering in February 1995.
"We think of this as a family reunion," said Santa Fe resident
Judy Hulsey, who organized both meetings. "This is one of the good
things that's come from the Internet," Hulsey said. Without cyberspace,
this group of men and women, ages 20 to 70, would be hard-pressed to find
so many with whom to share their passion, questions and suggestions about
an often unrecognized art form. Most of them also think their number of
true friends would be fewer. "I took the power of prayer from these
girls that I love but have never seen," Florida resident Miller-Willis
said. "Because you don't have friends in Florida; you have acquaintances."
Begun as "just a craft board" about five years ago, the chat room
evolved into a support group for a hobby, she said.
Today description of the computerized beadworking network fails its users.
"The people are first; the craft is secondary," Miller-Willis
said. "It's about knowing there are actually good people out there"
- people without jealousy, without selfishness, she said.
According to the beaders, their reliance upon written computer postings
to learn about each other probably elevated and enhanced their relationships.
"We don't discuss what we are so much as who we are," said Suzanne
Cooper, a Texan and author of beadwork books. "When you see someone
for the first time, you're often colored by their appearances," Hulsey
said. "When you meet over the Internet, you learn to love them before
you ever see them. They could have two heads and three eyes, and it doesn't
matter."
Evidence of their sincerity flowed from table to table, palm to palm,
and heart to heart as the women presented each other with handmade gifts
Friday afternoon in the Sandia Room of the Holiday Inn. "They make
me cry," Hulsey said as someone handed her a box wrapped in blue tissue
paper.
Although the four male members neglected to come, they, too, sent well-wishes
in the form of beaded knick-knacks. For instance, 20-year beadworker David
Dean (computer chat name, Beadude) sent Hulsey a beaded amulet purse necklace
that he called "her portrait." The piece looked like a hand-size
pouch decorated with a Picasso-esque face and dangling strands of beaded
hair attached at the sides. Estimated gallery worth: about $200, according
to the experts present.
Many of the gifts exchanged would cost similar amounts on the open market
and would require about 24 hours of solid work for the average person to
complete. "This is the most giving group of people I've ever been involved
with," said Cooper, who recently finished blowing bubbles from the
red, white, and black beaded amulet swinging from her neck. Both the action
and the toy foretold of shenanigans likely to occur in the days that remain.
Sitting among tables covered with beading material, the women created,
learned, laughed, played silly spur-of-the-moment games, told stories and
harassed each other like schoolgirls. Although Hulsey lives in town, she
said she's staying in adjoining rooms with five of the other women. One
night during last year's romp, several women who were dressed in their nightgowns
went to Denny's at 3 a.m. to bead because of inadequate lighting in their
hotel rooms. The outlook for this year holds similar tendencies. When the
group isn't meeting, Hulsey said, "people are going off and doing their
own things ... and then coming back and beading until their eyes cross or
they can't see." "People pay megabucks to get as high as we get
from just getting together. And the only pain we feel is lack of sleep." |